Things have come a long way since the days of The Joy of Sex, where the encyclopedic list laid before the reader led to the assumption that technique and variety were the secrets to great sex. Michael Castleman has written a sex manual for the new millenia. Who knew that good sex involved not only the aforementioned techniques, but so much more? If porn films –which the writer decries– is any clue then most modern men are hopelessly clueless.
Castleman tackles those subjects usually reserved for women's health books. The book is divided into four parts.
The last section of the book contains resources for everything from therapists to sexual healing.
- Part One: Principles of Great Sex for Men tackles those dangerous emotions, bad nutrition and physical health issues that rob men of the joy of total sex.
- Part Two: Women's Sexuality and Pleasure gently enlightens men about bad technique, plain old ignorance and the keys to being a supportive sexual partner.
- Part Three: Meeting Everyone's Needs discusses exploration, comfort levels and sexual responsibility
- Part Four: Sexual Desire and Satisfaction discusses desire, arousal, sex therapy and aphrodisiacs.
Great Sex is the book every man didn't know he needed, the kind of book a parent might give a male child on his wedding day. Great Sex is a manual that feels like an encyclopedia, a self-help book that feels like a nutritional and psychological guide. What other sex book includes discussions on the value of vitamins alone for sex? In addition to historical references and many statistics from recent research, Castleman discusses vitamins, the chemical balance between the brain and the emotions, mind medicines, stress busters, personal protocols, the power of thoughts, emotional baggage, grief, guilt, aromatherapy, cluttered thinking, cluttered lifestyle, self-acceptance, partner acceptance, Viagra, hygiene, menstruation, afterglow, emotional recovery, relaxation and other pieces that are generally missing from sex guides.
Although Castleman encourages joyous sexual exploration and desires that all his readers, he despises pornography because of its dangerous unhealthy effects on both men and women. He shows that not only does pornography create unreal expectations in men about themselves, but it also affects their ideas of what sexual performance is, among other media-induced errors.
Yet this great wealth of information is written in a conversational accessible and organized manner. A highly recommended book. Readers will be clueless no more.