When people take their marriage vows, the vows are often said with an air of rote repetition. But Dr. Ronn Ellmore, a minister and relationship therapist, takes what he considers "the basic, unalterable tenets of a rock-solid marriage," expands on the traditional vows, and communicates these new precepts in a clear, concise way in An Outrageous Commitment. He encourages couples to move past the initial feelings of marriage to work toward a substantial, strong commitment. He stresses that the only way this can happen is if readers are truly focused on both the spiritual nature of the message and the practical applications of what is presented. Dr. Ellmore is a Christian and An Outrageous Commitment is written from a Biblical perspective.
Each vow is contained in a short chapter. The vows include topics like: Outrageous Commitment, Mutual Submission, Exclusivity, Flexibility, Confrontation, Acceptance, Voluntary Amnesia, Asking, Decisiveness, Surrender, and Rest. Each chapter begins by outlining the entire vow, such as this one for The Vow of Outrageous Commitment: "In marriage, your self-sacrifice will not always be noticed, appreciated, or reciprocated; but it has the power to disarm our natural tendency toward passionate self-centeredness." What follows is a passage involving that vow and Adam and Eve, to give it a bit of a human and spiritual perspective. Then Dr. Ellmore teaches on the subject, as well as answers questions that might come up, and gives personal anecdotes. The chapter then closes with an application question that can either be answered personally or with your spouse.
Any couple looking to make their marriage stronger and more committed will benefit from An Outrageous Commitment. Some of the concepts may challenge you and stretch your comfort zone, but everything presented is a basic foundational point of Christianity and the way believers should relate to God, as well as their spouse. I can see this book used as daily readings for couples, because there are many opportunities for discussion and reflection. Dr. Ellmore writes in a straightforward manner, without too much flowery Biblical language or preachy talk. If you are serious about improving your marriage, or want to begin your marriage on the right foot, then An Outrageous Commitment will definitely provide food for thought and action.