NOT “Just Friends” is invaluable both for couples-married or otherwise who are going or have gone through the misery of an affair, and for those who want to shield themselves from such an experience.

The cautions against fidelity pitfalls are particularly useful with their suggestions of not trying to remain close friends with your ex and not spending too much time (and none alone) with the person at work whom you may feel attracted to. The book even provides quizzes that will help identify both your, your partner’s, and your relationship’s vulnerability to cheating. In today’s society of expected amiable broken relationships and the forced proximity to attractive members of the opposite sex at work, caution is the better part of valor.

Also provided are step by step instructions on how to work through the myriad feelings assailing both the cheatee and the cheater without demonizing either one. NOT “Just Friends”provides hope that infidelity is possible to overcome if both partners want it badly enough and are willing to work hard to make that happen.

This book should be required reading for everyone in any monogamous relationship, particularly one in which one partner or both partners have strayed. Run, don’t walk, to buy this book. The relationship you save may be your own.